Sex and Gender
The following few extracts from the work of Théun are but a humble effort to do justice to the vast scope of the subject termed Sex and Gender. As a Toltec, Théun has a vast knowledge on this subject which the serious student can study by joining this website, but it is hoped that these few extracts will at least point out to the reader that the subject of Sex and Gender is not what most people have been led to believe it to be.
Toltecs have since time immemorial been researching the mystery surrounding gender, but in order to grasp their knowledge on this subject, it is important to first grasp the implications inherent within the relative factor of awareness.
Because the poles within a set of polarities are separated only in the sense of marking the limits between which that spectrum of frequencies is true, and because the poles blend one into the other across a mutually inclusive range of frequencies, there is no true separation as such - separation being simply the product of a particular alignment of perception. From this it follows that gender too is but a set of polarities marking the limits between which that particular spectrum of frequencies termed gender is true. Consequently gender, like any set of polarities, is entirely relative to perception. What this implies is that although the dual sexes are an objective reality, subjectively they do not exist as two poles that are separated and therefore mutually exclusive of one another.
This tenet is totally fundamental to our understanding of not only heterosexuality, but also hermaphroditism, for heterosexuality is but the objective expression of subjective hermaphroditism. However, inherent within this tenet also lie the roots of that mystery termed bisexuality, a mystery Toltecs have not yet been able to solve.
This present manifestation as we know it is the world of the Divine Heterosexual, as expressed by life within manifestation. Yet we should at all times recognise the fact that life within manifestation is not life itself, but rather the expression of life.
We do not know what life is, and we also know very little about the divine purpose, other than what can be deduced of this purpose from our experience of life within manifestation. But since our knowledge of the divine purpose is limited to our experience of the expression of life, we cannot presume to know the purpose of the Unspeakable. All that we can safely say about that purpose is that although it manifests as heterosexual in quality, there is nonetheless conclusive proof that life itself cannot be heterosexual, but is instead hermaphroditic by nature, and that its true expression upon becoming manifest is bisexual in quality.
Therefore we define life as being primarily hermaphroditic with a bisexual purpose that is expressed by life within manifestation as a heterosexual purpose. More than this we cannot presume to know.
Both the male and the female are hermaphroditic by nature, meaning that the manifestation of both the male and the female is the result of a subjective impulse which is materialised as an objective expression of that impulse. But the only true impulse there is, is that which is con-fined within the void as intent, and which when emanating forth from the void, be-comes de-fined as the will-to-manifest, materialised as the dimension of time, that is, desire, or emotional impetus. From this it follows that both the male and the female are the result of con-fined intent having be-come defined as the two poles of the one polarity, desire.
The unknowable concerns life unmanifest, and so is masculine relative to both the known and the unknown. Because of this, much of our knowledge concerning the true nature of masculinity remains a mystery, for until we can enter the unknowable, our knowledge of masculinity is confined to our experience of it relative to femininity only.
This then brings us to the second point we need to look at here, namely, our understanding of gender. Realise that because we are as yet unable to enter the unknowable and so have no direct experience of it, the true nature of masculinity must of necessity remain somewhat obscure to us. It must remain limited to what we are capable of learning about it, firstly, through the Law of Polarity; and secondly, within the context of the known and the unknown. But if we bear in mind that the whole of manifestation, that is, the tonal, is feminine relative to the Unspeakable, we can clearly see that our knowledge of gender is peculiarly coloured by femininity. It is for this reason that mother's awareness in humanity is so strong, and also why it is inherent in both sexes. Furthermore, it is also because of this fact that women, in general, seem to be much more together than men, and why women will often try to teach men how to be male. But the implications in this state of affairs are clear to see.
This is not to say that men stand no chance of ever learning what it is to be male. However, it does emphasise why it is so very important for men especially to strive to become at-one with life, and not to remain stuck in the form-side of life, for only in this way can men come into contact with true masculinity, or at least the expression of masculinity in life within manifestation. As we already know, the expression of life within manifestation is heterosexual in quality, which is something that brings us straight back to why the secret of gender is so vitally important to our understanding of both ourselves and the universe. But, by the same token, the moment we bring into this equation also the Rule of the Three-Pronged Nagal, we are immediately up against that peculiar relationship we have been touching upon for a while now, namely, the relationship between the three and the four. Although we know precious little about this relationship, we do have enough knowledge of it to show us that life be-coming manifest is not heterosexual, but bisexual by nature, a fact that only highlights the mystery of sex and gender, and shows us very clearly that our knowledge of this mystery must perforce remain inadequate until such time as we can gain direct experience of the unknowable.
There is a powerful and highly dynamic relationship existing between the world of the three and the world of the four, but we do not grasp this relationship beyond the fact that it is an expression of divine inspiration demonstrating both the love that exists between the three and the four, as well as the fertilisation of the four by the three, so that life becoming manifest remains forever nascent, and life within manifestation remains for ever inspired.
Perhaps it would be wise to digress here for a brief moment just to clarify the above point. Toltecs define the term "bisexual" as the nagal's urge to include both polarities of its unknown counterpart within the known. To grasp this is not difficult if we bear in mind that the known and the unknown, male and female, are but the two polarities of the nagal's awareness. Since these two polarities are only present within the manifested universe, which is all feminine relative to the Unspeakable, it stands to reason that the whole of the manifested universe, that is, both life manifested, as well as life within manifestation, is the unknown counterpart of the Unspeakable. Therefore it is clear that even what we look upon as being male and female, or the known and the unknown, is all feminine relative to the Unspeakable.
The only reason why the careless apprentice will often become utterly confused by this fact, is because he or she insists upon assuming that we live in an absolute universe, and thereby ignores the fact that life within manifestation is but potential intelligence made manifest. But all potential must be mapped out, developed and perfected before it can truly be classified as the known. Until then it is potentially the known, as opposed to that which is totally unknown. Yet undeveloped potential is as much the unknown as the unknown itself! To grasp this fully, it always helps if we bring it down to our human scale, and look at it in terms of men and women.
If we look at a man, we see that he has a masculine potential, which does indeed constitute for him the known, in that he feels himself to be a male, and by trying to live true to what he senses and feels with respect to his gender, he slowly begins to unfold that potential. While he is in incarnation as a man, the female is for him very much the unknown that he is trying to relate to, and thereby map out, so as to include it within, what is for him, the known. But realise that what is for him the known, consists partly of what he has actually learned about himself in terms of being a male, and partly what he can as yet only sense as being his potential. Therefore, to all intents and purposes, the man is constantly learning to unfold his unknown potential in terms of masculinity, while at the same time mapping out, what is for him, the feminine unknown as personified in women.
Needless to say, exactly the same is true of women, albeit the other way round. Consequently, the term "bisexual," as used by Toltecs, refers to the essential nature of life be-coming manifest, and it includes both the stages where there is as yet no differentiation between the sexes, and once the sexes have become separated, for the nagal still does not discriminate between the two polarities of its awareness, other than for the purposes, firstly, of unfolding its full male potential, part of which is as yet the unknown in terms of masculinity, and secondly, of mapping out the true feminine unknown, so as to incorporate it within the known.
This is the truest possible use and meaning of the term "bisexual," and it has got absolutely nothing to do with the normal usage of the term, implying a sexual preference for both men and women. This wider meaning is, of course, equally true of the term "heterosexual," and therefore neither of these two terms as used by Toltecs are confined by humanity's present understanding of either sex or gender. However, notwithstanding this, the careful reader should be able to see from what has been imparted here, that even in humanity's present definition of these two terms, there does lie at least a kernel of truth.
Without the Law of Polarity, which is but the expression of the dual nature of intent, we would not be able to map out the unknown. For without this law there would be no separation of the known from the unknown, male from female, or light from darkness. Likewise, without the Law of Polarity there would not be that marvelous law termed the Law of Inclusiveness, which demonstrates the awesome relationship between the polarities, and ultimately draws every-thing in the universe together through the electromagnetic bond we term love in action - friendship.
The Law of Polarity already comes into being the moment intent first stirs within the void. In that moment friendship is conceived, is brought to birth as the Yellow Rose of Friendship, and is perpetuated as the divine inspiration manifested within that mysterious relationship between the Divine Bisexual and the Divine Heterosexual - life coming into manifestation and life within manifestation.
One of the best ways of stalking our perception of self, is to start re-evaluating our social conditioning surrounding gender, and how we relate to both males and females because of this conditioning. The moment we embark upon this, we find that nowhere is it clearer to see how people are continuously undermining each other's strength and belief in self, than in the endless battle between, as well as amongst, the sexes, irrespective of physical gender. Men and women today are still not friends in the true sense of the word. Women, in wanting to be acknowledged, are so busy fighting everyone, including men, that love and warmth have gone right out the window. Who, after all, can love a battleaxe? Who can love and respect a woman who is demanding her pound of flesh, or is it perhaps by some slim chance love and warmth she is demanding? But then, can one receive love and warmth simply by demanding it, as if it is our democratic right?
Men, on the other hand, are feeling so guilty for having been born into a world in which everyone has been led to believe that men are somehow superior to women, that they happily disempower themselves in order not to be seen as being the privileged or favoured sex. But guilt is a poor substitute for love, and the actions born out of guilt can hardly be described as warmth. So when we look around us today, we see a world filled with very demanding women who are also mostly very angry, and we see very weak men who have thrown away all of their dignity and honour in an attempt to appease these angry women. But the consequences of such behaviour are dire. Besides the fact that the world is busy falling apart as a result of this battle between the sexes, both men and women are also becoming ever more disempowered, more and more selective in their perception, and therefore more and more closed, defensive and hostile. The result is that there is very little love left in this world, and practically no warmth whatsoever. Men and women are not friends. In fact, if the truth be told, they do not even like each other.
If it were not for that animal instinct termed sexual lust, men and women would never agree to share their lives together. As shocking as this may be, it is nonetheless true. What starts off as lust bringing two people together, soon becomes seeking approval, then seeking security and finally, when it has become clear to both that they cannot demand love from each other, and that they therefore cannot have life on their terms, they usually develop a genuine dislike for each other.
But it is not only men and women who are not friends. Even men today do not really have male friends. The deep friendship between two males that should be the expression of the male's intuitive grasp of the meaning of the inherent unity of the One Life, is something that is either feared, in case it is misinterpreted, or else scorned as an expression of weakness. So men go around slapping each other on the back, and constantly reaffirm to each other what jolly good fellows they are, mistaking this for friendship.
But women too do not have female friends. Generally speaking women all but hate each other, regardless of what they may profess to the contrary, for deep down inside, every woman sees every other woman as a potential threat to her endeavour to carve out for herself a space within a cold and hostile world. But these are concepts that have already been covered extensively in my other books, and therefore let it suffice here to state that people, irrespective of gender, do not really have friends. What people today term "friends," are what can only be termed partners in crime!