Théun, I need to face my greatest fear by asking for guidance openly in front of everyone in the Group. I have for as long as I can remember always felt exceedingly inadequate as a male because of having a small penis. I have felt so bad about this in so many ways and for so long that I no longer want to be debilitated by this fact. I want to be free of the fear and to live my life happily, without always being afraid of being exposed as being less than other males because my penis is less than average size. Can you please help me?
:) My friend, what you have shared with us all takes an ENORMOUS amount of COURAGE and WILLINGNESS to be open! I want you to know that for this ONE act alone you have earned for yourself my deepest admiration and respect. :)
It takes a VERY BIG man, my friend, to admit to his deepest fears, doubts and insecurities! But you have ALREADY taken this step by sharing with us, and therefore does the size of your penis REALLY matter now? :) No, my friend! It is instead the characteristics, the strengths and the weaknesses, the potential and the beauty of the indwelling being that matters, and NOT his or her physical attributes! We each CHOOSE the bodies we NEED in order to LEARN whatever it is we NEED to learn, in the same way that we choose our parents, our culture, our race, in short, our EVERY-THING! We choose our FATE so that we may unfold our DESTINY as magical beings of this universe! But should this then be a reason to feel ashamed of our fate? On the one hand, yes; on the other hand, no!
You see, we can ONLY ever be ashamed of our fate when we do NOT have the necessary HUMILITY to EMBRACE the scripts we wrote for ourselves prior to incarnation! Yet what CAUSES the sense of shame is NOT our fate as such, but rather the inner war that occurs between the heart and the mind, the inner war that occurs BECAUSE of the heart KNOWING that the mind LACKS the necessary humility to accept, to EMBRACE what is our fate! So instead of trying to acquire the necessary humility we try to HIDE the VERY THING that is THERE to teach us humility, and thus the sense of shame!
Having said this, realise though that I am NOT in ANY way saying that you have been struggling with this challenge ONLY because you lack humility! No, my friend! It is NOT my intention to make you feel even worse, instead I am trying to impart to you HOW to shift the focus in dealing with this challenge.
To keep it simple, let me just say that for you the challenge does not lie in having to live with your physical endowments, but instead the REAL challenge lies in LEARNING to EMBRACE your masculinity IN SPITE of your feelings of inferiority because of what you perceive to be your shortfalls as a man! This is exactly the SAME as when we say that it is EASY to be a paper warrior, in that it is EASY to be a warrior when one is NOT having to face REAL challenges! Likewise is it EASY to be a paper male when you have the perfect male body, and when you are not being CHALLENGED in terms of your BELIEF in your masculinity!
In this respect, have a good look around you, my friend, and see how very BADLY men in general are faring in terms of claiming their power as males! Those men who have all the attributes of what is considered the good male body are all too often WEAK and INEFFECTUAL, and also all too often make quite the WORST lovers, husbands and providers! Because they THINK that they already have it all they see no real NEED to rise above the purely physical! In short, they THINK they ARE their bodies, and because their bodies are near perfect they consider themselves to be near perfect males, if not God's gift to humanity! LOL! On the other hand, with where cosmetic surgery has got to today, those men who feel inferior because of not having the perfect physical body, and who have the necessary financial resources to do so, are very busy RUNNING AWAY from this challenge by simply going for cosmetic surgery, instead of FACING the challenge! But this IS why I said to you that it takes a VERY BIG man to admit to, and to take OWNERSHIP of his deepest fears concerning his masculinity!
So what you NEED to do, my friend, is to shift the focus from seeing your challenge as being a HANDICAP to seeing it for the GIFT of power that it is! Just look at how MUCH personal power you have already claimed as a DIRECT consequence of this challenge! If this were not so you would not today be a married man, and neither would you be a member of this Group demonstrating so MUCH courage in wanting to embrace this challenge with full OPENNESS! This gift, my friend, has already served you well, and it will CONTINUE to serve you BEYOND imagination IF you now start to EMBRACE it as a gift! But to embrace it will require that you learn ALL that you can concerning the TRUE nature of humility! Yet even in this you already have such an advantage BECAUSE of your perceived handicap.
To grasp this, you only need look at our friend Y! <g> I am using Y as an example because he already KNOWS that I love him dearly, and therefore he is not LIKELY to be offended by being used as an example! <g> Y, like you, ALSO has to, perhaps even more so than others, learn the meaning of humility in this lifetime, but in HIS case his near perfect physique is at present his BIGGEST handicap, in that it has caused him to become extremely VAIN! <ebwg> Y cannot even COPE with having a pimple on his face, let alone having to face the challenge of having a penis that is not the politically correct size or preferably bigger! LOL! So before Y can learn about humility he first has to overcome his vanity! :) At least in YOUR case, your Dreamer made SURE that vanity will not be for YOU a handicap in this lifetime! :) But even more than this, your Dreamer made it THAT much easier for you to learn humility AND claim MUCH power, by giving you NO reason to become vain and self-centred, but EVERY reason to fight like all hell to claim your power as a TRUE male!