Is unresolved hurt and indulgence not one and the same thing?
No. Not if you make the hurt ABOUT you by bringing it BACK to YOU in terms of, "Why did I call forth this lesson?" Hurt in itself cannot make one bad, anymore than calling forth our lessons in life can make us bad! Lessons are simply lessons! And hurt is simply a lesson not YET grasped for what it TRULY is!
Indulgence can ONLY come about where one is NOT making it about oneself by bringing it back to oneself, and therefore one is NOT learning one iota from the lesson! It is like sitting STARING at one's examination paper without making even the VAGUEST effort to answer it! LOL!