Completion, explained from Family Posts


  • Completion, explained

“Completion is forever folding back upon itself within the PROCESS of EVOLUTION! The trick lies in learning to work WITH the process, rather than AGAINST it.”

Recently I spent some time together with family in a holiday resort in the mountains, with forests and lakes and the most spectacular scenery. I had not spent this sort of time together with these family members since my childhood, so it was a very rich time for recapitulation and to reassess patterns. One of the aspects that stood out for me most strongly was that in our childhood holidays there was a strong competitiveness and feeling of having to prove myself in almost all of the activities we would partake in, whether this was playing golf, fishing, hiking or table tennis, etc.

One of the many gifts of this time together was that I was able to recognize these aspects, to realize that their roots were still present, and through recognizing them, to bring them to completion. We still partook in most of these activities, however, instead of competing against, I sought out intelligent co-operation and fun, in which the journey was more important than the goal. Out of the old behaviors, a new journey started to evolve, and we shared a lot of fun, laughter and warmth together.

I also noticed that I have often had a tendency to rush in “like a bull in a china shop” when I have embarked on activities in which I had a fair bit of experience in the past. This has led to some carelessness and accidents.

One morning I decided to go horse-riding for the first time in about 25 years amongst the beautiful mountain scenery. I used to enjoy riding very much, and so I booked myself in for a fairly challenging ride.

I was reminded of my tendency to rush in when a car alarm went off as soon as I had made my booking. It continued to go off repeatedly as I made my way to the stables.

Looking at this indication I recognized that I was out of practice, that horses can be unpredictable, and that I needed to exercise great care and respect in this challenge. So I talked to the man who was accompanying me, and said that I would like to focus on enjoying the ride and the scenery, rather than on speed. I remained wide awake and as a result fully enjoyed the ride, whilst not taking anything for granted.

By being wide awake and respectful, I did not need to focus on the goal, but could enjoy my relationship with the horse, the scenery, the exhilaration when we cantered up hills, and each step of the way.

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