Choice, importance of from Family Posts


  • Choice, importance of

“THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO BELIEVE IT IS. LIKEWISE YOU ARE WHATEVER YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO BELIEVE YOU ARE.

WE ARE ALL THE PRODUCT OF OUR THOUGHTS AND OUR FEELINGS, AND THE CIRCUMSTANCES IN WHICH DESTINY UNFOLDS ARISE BECAUSE WE HAVE CALLED THEM FORTH ACCORDING TO OUR VIEW OF THE WORLD.”

In considering this month’s theme, I found myself recapitulating what it means to have a home and how much value I choose to associate with this concept, especially after I gave up what I had in 2008 to move to Europe and have since ended up in Chile, and I have been living on my own for the last few years.

In this light I decided to take a step back from my current living conditions, and accept an invitation from a friend (T) who I have just met, and went to stay with her and her family for a few days.

I was pleasantly surprised spending some time with her 2 youngest daughters (3 & 5 years old), observing how they interacted with the world in an open and innocent way, without trying correct or fix anything, even when they quite obviously were trying to manipulate those around them for their own benefit. :-)

One of the things I managed to recall was mine and my brothers interactions when we were growing up, while observing these to young ladies, and the competition we used to have against and between each other, and how this progressed to be quite destructive over time.

I have also observed my brother’s interactions with his daughter over the years, and what a strong mirror they are for each other. What I am grateful for was that I made a conscious choice to change the relationship with my brother a few years ago, as he has been my closest mirror growing up, and I have seen the results of this choice in the quality of our interaction when visiting him on my travels to Europe.

In talking with T I could see how frenetic her life is with having 4 children in it, and how much she enjoys being a mother, which then led me to start considering what I mentioned in my first paragraph about what it means to have a home, and how much of my thoughts around this concept have come from my mother, and also how far I have come with this concept having had the opportunities to have lived in a few different types of homes since then. :-)

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